Sometimes you can feel unavailable but available at the same time. I have felt this alot. And maybe a source of irrational panic of wanting to help out and give advice all the time. Don’t no what Bipolar feels like but sort of could imagine it in small ways. Like high energy and burst of. Come to a realisation of myself and its not that I didn’t notice its just that I carried on. And didn’t do what’s in my nature instead I created a paranamic view of everything and everyone in my life and started panicking Trying to help out. I am a single mother who is an artist with plenty of opportunity’s. And sometimes I want to share everything even to the free bottle of wine. Not even sure how I come across maybe pushy. I have a nack for research and finding focus groups coupons and free things and I don’t stop. So let’s say I am not looking for a normal traditional job but what I am passionate about. And I have this it’s my show mentality I am fully aware of it and its just one of those things especially if it’s just you and child in the house no adult to talk to then suddenly an adult calls and such you can’t stop talking and you’re on high energy. Where is it from like what is all of that. Then Boom! Poof you get a low or no one is interested or you are feeling a bit pushy trying to save the world with an invisible hero cape! Soaring through. So I dig into my past and I am like why do I panic for other people when I clearly can’t see it around me. Like everyone seems to be sane like laid back and probably doing what makes them feel good. Where as me not really living my truth and knowing or understanding if the messenger or helper was a given. Or I just adopted it by accident and ran with it. Understanding that it will be a journey for it all to change and for me to stop giving advice and attention and focus on me and my son. Keep my lips sealed and nod or say bare minimum. I have to go cold turkey and be selfish keep my advice to myself my free things. The new nack and listen more. Probably use my energy to transfer into something else. Stay away from people for a few days or weeks. Don’t know if anyone else feels like this at all. Just learning how to keep my business to myself and invest in me to move forward. Has anyone got a similar story?
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So I have started doing podcast because I have things to say. It may not be politically right but then again what is politically right or correct. Somethings are just thoughts and opinions until more people accept it or accustomise themselves to the findings or opinions more will agree with. Or disagree with. I aim at the point where its okay to just share with others.
So much has changed in life. Changes happen just as we speak. We loose cells that are being recreated we have breathed so many breaths we don’t even recognise.
We take in amazing amounts of information
But we are only trained to understand some.
We underevaluate pain and suffering
But it’s quite possible to die
Than to be cured because we have already given up in mind.
I’ve lost a few
Friends lost my first love
And that hurt me bad
But I got to see them again.
They never died
But my Nana died.
I never truly gave the thought to
Sayings because they had a depth
The depth I was in denial to.
They say you never know what you had
Until it’s gone.
Some come and go
And some never return.
Sometimes we take on situations that are not ours to take on. Things that have nothing to do with us. All on the part of being loyal. So biggest part of my life was being nice. Listening loving helping. Just a thought was it loving or just saving did I or do I want to save people from themselves and then if it upset somone else I end up juggling who should be saved now really who. Now that I clearly understand I am not a superhero for sure but deep down in my mind I had this vision that, that person can now smile be free. I just didn’t learn to think for myself and gp with the full heart regardless of who it hurts. I guess it’s the pure fact of being present for somone else in expense of it hurting somone else. Coz if you stop doing what you felt right to do in order to be a person pleaser. That person who wanted you to change has now nothing to benifit you so you are on your own now. Making a juggling show of pleasing until the show is on you.
He said he was sorry
Sorry for being upset crying
Having tears racing down his face.
He’s so sorry that he wasn’t as strong as a super hero.
I said son, tears allow you to have strength, because without it superheroes won’t be able to smile.
Each smile saves the day. Strength is not shown only by muscle but the ability to cry and understand that it’s OK.
The year I lost my nana
Felt what fear, loss and love really felt like.
Faced my nan and held her hands tight.
But, for the first time she couldn’t hear me right.
Didn’t see her smile or feel her breathing.
Saw death for the first time.
Was my nana laying there.
No more work for you to do nana
You can lay there and rest now,
No more pain nana
It’s strange to me to not hear your voice.
Right now it’s but apart of my imagination.
I knew I’d be facing this reality one day. Just didn’t kno how much pain really feels.
I used to miss people but that now seems like a joke to me coz I can still see those people but I can never see you again.
The day you passed away I walked into your house and all I could smell was you. X